Ali Campbell is an internationally acclaimed life coach; he has built an enviable reputation as a highly motivational Coach, Presenter, Therapist and Personal Trainer. An advisor to celebrities, business leaders and politicians and even royalty around the world. Ali is widely featured in the media, on Television, Radio and in print. He is uniquely placed to assist you to reach your goals.
Relationships are funny things… Or at least they should be if they’re going to last. I don’t just mean relationship in the sense of that special someone in your life or bed. We all have many and varied relationships in our daily lives - work colleagues, friends and family. Some are powerful and passionate and others fleeting and fickle but all are important. Or are they?
I had a very brief and very passionate relationship on the train this morning. No, not some illicit tryst with a fellow passenger. The lady sitting next to me (in a bid to be very efficient) was trying to pay her credit card bill by phone while commuting to work. In an effort to catch her phone as it fell, she dropped her card. To her horror, it fell down the gap between her seat and the carriage wall. Panic ensued as thoughts of the consequences rushed through her head - she was already late for work and this was the last straw in what had been a horrible morning - and it was only 10am. Cue your friendly heroic life coach (never get between a Scotsman and money, plastic or otherwise).
The hug I got when I retrieved her card, you would have thought we’d been married for 20 years. Actually come to think of it, if we’d been married for 20 years we’d have had an argument about whose fault it was that the card got stuck in the first place, would have brought up all the stupid things each of us had done before and then would have fallen out.
Pick a relationship that you’d like to improve and ask yourself “am I doing everything that I can to make this wonderful? or am I waiting to see…” In my experience, there are ONLY these two types.
It’s the difference between choosing your battles and my way or else. In ‘wait and see’ relationships the boundaries tend to be enforced harder. Ask yourself: if your child shouted at you and stormed out (if you don’t have kids then use a family member), would you be likely to walk away and say “that’s it, I’m through with being a parent / brother to them - I’m looking for someone new” No! Well I really hope not. (If so Jeremy Kyle wants to hear from you.) But if that same thing was done by a casual friend or associate it would probably mark the end of your relationship.
It’s a case of: have you decided to make whatever you’re doing the most wonderful it can be? Or are you waiting to see if the others are worthy of you and your full attention? We often hold back in relationships then get hurt because we’ve held back. “If only my boss knew the real me…”, “If only my girlfriend knew the real me…”. It’s time to decide. Are you in or are you waiting to see?
List your 5 most important relationships. For each, note have you decided to make it wonderful or… are you still waiting to see?
Pick one, just one for now and for the next week make it wonderful. You have the power to do it. The gift of power is in the present. You can’t do something yesterday, you can’t do something in 5 minutes from now you can only do it NOW!