Peta Heskell is known as The Original Flirt Coach and has been on just about every TV and radio show you can imagine. Her expertise is all things relationship and uses flirting as a powerful metaphor for effective communication whether that's with loved ones, friends or in the workplace. If there are relationships in your life that are holding you back (or making you eat) then Peta can help you…and make it fun...
Story:
Three years ago Tony was divorced, living in London and single. Now Tony and Alison run a business taking people on sailing trips around the Indian Ocean. Tony told me that before he sold his business, he used to spend a lot of time thinking about his dream life. He said it was like directing a fantasy movie. He’d write the scripts, choose the actors and the locations. He imagined that he would meet a woman who would share his dream of living on the ocean.
I’ve met a lot of people who have successful fulfilling relationships and most of them have one thing in common. They had vivid sensations of the life they wanted AND they believed it would come to them.
Exploration
This next exploration is designed to help you create the life you want and manifest it without relentlessly pursuing a goal. Make sure you have interruption free time to do this. Simply imagine you’re directing a movie in which you are the STAR. Like all good movie directors, you must be prepared to adapt the storylines, change the scripts and the actors and shoot several different endings. Unlike movie directors, you have an endless supply of endings which all lead to new beginnings.
Here are some clues to get you started:
Location
Where would the movie be set, you can have lots of different locations if you want. Which country/s would you be in. Country, seaside, city, desert, what? Be as detailed as you want
Wardrobe and Make up
Who would be wearing what. What would you be wearing, How would you look [be realistic unless you’re thinking plastic surgery!]
Scenes
How does it begin, and what scenes are you going to include?
Co-actors
Who is with you? You might not have a particular person in mind to co-star with you, so make up an ‘idea’ of someone then look for the star!
Action
How do you interact with this person in the movie. What are you doing together, saying to each other, what are you not doing together? Who are you meeting? What adventures are you having ? Is this movie SEXY?
Effects
Make sure you’ve got sound effects, a great score, and use technicolour widescreen
Endings
Write three different happy endings to this movie!
Activity - Stepping into your movie
As you know, when you are seeing a movie as if it’s happening to you it’s much more powerful emotionally than if it’s something far away on a distant screen. To make your movie more real you have to step into it and be part of it. Here’s how you do that.
Start to run your movie in your head. Notice where the image is, and imagine it coming closer and closer until it and you meet and become one. Feel the difference.
Now stand or sit in a way that you feel powerful. Breathe into your sacral area and relax.
Let the movie run slowly, act it out in your head.. and keep doing this as often as you wish. The more you do it, the more it gets into your muscle and the more real it seems. If you believe in it, and get juicy about it, then it’s much more likely to come true.
And now that you’ve seen the movie, put it away and allow it to roll out in it’s own good time.