11 items found
11 Mar 2009 by Peta Heskell
Dating - Your dating patterns I suspect that you, like many others, have rules and behaviours for dating. It might be useful for you to examine what specifically it is that you do that doesn’t seem to work? If you notice stuff that does work, great, keep it. Sometimes we build up expectations and then try to fit everyone into that tailor-made box The following exploration is your....
24 Feb 2009 by Peta Heskell
Values We all have things that are important to us. To a very religious person it might be very important that they marry into their faith. To someone who has been ‘cheated on’ it might be very important to know that their next partner is into monogamy. I surveyed couples who have been together for over ten years and consider themselves happy. By far the most dominant reason they gave....
23 Feb 2009 by Nicky Hambleton-Jones
Want to know what to wear on a first date? Keep it simple and sophisticated. Nothing to leery or fussy that will make you feel uncomfortable or under or overdressed. Confidence is everything, so if nothing else pick your tried and tested pieces which you know pull the punches. Don’t wear anything too tight. You will end up fiddling with your outfit all night....
20 Feb 2009 by Peta Heskell
"Sticks and Stones may hurt my bones but words will do no harm." Balderdash! Words are infinitely more powerful than sticks and stones. You can use words to hurt or you can use them to heal Words are neurotransmitters which generate very powerful reactions and sometimes long term affect in the people at whom they are directed. And when we learn to use words with exquisite....
1 Feb 2009 by Peta Heskell
When we like someone and we are interested in them, after we spend time with them we need to process it. Sometimes we talk to our friends and analyse what’s going on. And sometimes we write in a diary. And sometimes we just let it go round and round in our head. And it can get muddled up. Some things can become more important than they need to be. Keeping a mental....
1 Feb 2009 by Peta Heskell
Are you strategically attracting what is perfect for you or are you a zap-happy attraction magnet? Every day you draw things into your life as a direct result of the concentrated thoughts, wishes and ideas that you come up with. The more you think the thoughts and wish the wishes, the more the ‘system’ conspires to make them happen. And sometimes you attract things....
29 Jan 2009 by Peta Heskell
Sense-Able Listening The words people use and the way they phrase what they say are useful clues to how they make sense of the world. This information can come in very useful when communicating with people as you’ll find out in the next chapter. See feel hear Some people pick up on the visual aspects Others are highly tuned to what they hear And others get more of a feel for things....
29 Jan 2009 by Peta Heskell
The Face The face is a very telling organ and it talks incessantly. We are all familiar with obvious facial movements like raised eyebrows and a downturned mouth. But what about the not so obvious ones? Skin Colour Change Skin colour can change with emotion. When someone is ‘hot around the collar’ they’re experiencing a temperature rise and increased blood flow in the neck. These changes....
29 Jan 2009 by Peta Heskell
Look around at people. They have different ways of moving around don’t they. Some of them can’t sit still they’re so wired and some of them are really chilled and laid back and some are inbetweenies. Their ways of moving range from slow and solid, to jumpy and light or fast and fiery and some of them have got that sexy hip sway of moving. This stuff is the language of our....
28 Jan 2009 by Peta Heskell
How do you rate yourself as a communicator? Are you effective, powerful and attractive or is there room for improvement? The questions below are intended to make you think about how you communicate, what you communicate and how well you appear to be understood and where some improvement is required! As you read them through, pay attention to those scenarios that seem to leap out from the page.....
25 Jan 2009 by Annie Ashdown
Here’s the thing, as we focus on our own happiness and inner strength’s, it is amazing to see and feel the transformation starting to take place within. The feeling of serenity and contentment along a sense of empowerment is profound. When this takes place we can be sure we won’t approach a relationship from a place of insecurity, clinginess, or a deep need to be needed, instead we will....
11 items found